Habit 1 Be Proactive People are just about as happy as they make up their mind to be. Abe Lincoln
Have you ever said anything like, My girlfriend makes me so mad, or My Algebra teacher stinks. Im never going to learn anything in that class? The truth is No one can make you mad unless you let
them. Its your choice. You choose to be mad. If you dont learn anything in your class, it is your fault not the teachers. There are too many options available other than failing. Challenge yourself
And never blame someone else for the way you act. As a teenager, it may be hard for you to accept that YOU are responsible for your life. There are two types of people in this world
The proactive and reactive Those who take responsibility for their lives and those who blame; Those who make it happen and those who get happened to. Habit 1, Being Proactive, is the key
to unlocking all the other habits, thats why it comes first. Habit 1 says, I am the force. I am the captain of my life. I can choose my attitude. Im responsible for my own happiness or unhappiness. I am the drivers seat of my destiny, not just a passenger.
The first step toward achieving the private victory Until you feel you are in charge of your own life, nothing else is really possible. Proactive or reactive, the choice is yours Each day you have about 100 chances to choose whether to be proactive or reactive.
THE CHOICE IS YOURS Reactive people make choices based on impulse. They are like a can of soda pop. If life shakes them up a bit, the pressure builds and they suddenly explode! You stupid jerk! Get out of my lane!
THE CHOICE IS YOURS Proactive people make choices based on values. They THINK before they act. They recognize they cant control everything that happens to them, but they can control what they
do about it. Unlike reactive people who are full of carbonation, proactive people are like water. Shake them up all you want, take off the lid, and nothing . No fizzing, no bubbling, no pressure. They are calm, cool and in control Examples:
P49-50 Teacher share Scene 1 Scene 2 Listen to Your Language You can usually hear the difference between proactive and reactive people by the type of
language they use. Reactive language will sound like this: Thats me. Thats just the way I am. What they are really saying is, Im not responsible for the way I act. I cant change . I was predetermined to be this way.
Reactive language takes the power away from you and gives it to something or someone else. Its like giving someone the remote control to your life. Proactive language puts the
remote control back into your own hands. You are then free to choose which channel you want to be on. REACTIVE LANGUAGE
Ill try Ill do it Thats just the way I am I can do better than that Theres nothing I can do Lets look at all our options I have to I choose to
I cant Theres gotta be a way You ruined my day Im not going to let your bad mood rub off on me But I cant changeIm hardwired this way
Science disagrees: https:// www.youtube.com/watch?feature=player_em bedded&v=ELpfYCZa87g The Victimitis Virus People infected with the Victimitis virus believe that everyone has it in for them and
that the world owes them something Mark Twain says it best Dont go around saying the world owes you a living. The world owes you nothing. It was here first.
Adreana, an honor student from Chicago, grew up in a home plagued by victimitis: Teacher Read page 52 The only person who can hold you back is YOU!
Besides feeling like victims, reactive people: Are easily offended Blame others Get angry and say things they later regret Whine and complain Wait for things to happen to them Change only when they have to
It Pays To Be Proactive Proactive people are a different breed. Proactive people: Are not easily offended Take responsibility for their choices Think before they act
Bounce back when something bad happens Always find a way to make it happen Focus on things they can do something about, and dont worry about things they cant. Mary Beth discovered for herself the benefits of being proactive:
Teacher read p. 53-54 Come onits not that easy, right? True, being reactive is so much easier. Its easy to lose your cool. That doesnt take any control at all. Its easy to whine and complain. Butwithout question, being proactive is the
HIGHER ROAD. The key Get in the HABIT of being proactive so you can run on autopilot and not even have to think about it. If youre choosing to be proactive 20 out of 100
times each day, try doing it 30 out 100 times. Then 40. Never underestimate the huge difference small changes can make. WE CAN CONTROL ONLY ONE THING The fact is, we can not control everything that
happens to us. But we can control HOW WE RESPOND TO WHAT HAPPENS TO US. And that is what counts. Stop worrying about things you cant control and do things about what you can control.
The Circle of No Control Teacher read example page 55 Turning Setbacks into Triumphs Life often deals us a bad hand. It is up to us to control how we respond. The story of W. Mitchell: page 56
Most of our setbacks wont be as severe as Mitchells, all of us will, however, have our fair share. You might get dumped by a girlfriend or boyfriend, you may lose your job, you may get beaten up by a thug, you may not get accepted
into the school of your choice, you may become seriously ill. These are the times to be proactive and strong. They are your defining moments. Rising Above Abuse P. 58 Heather and Bridgetts stories
If you have been abused, IT IS NOT YOUR FAULT! The truth must be told. By telling another person, you immediately divide your problem in half. Talk with someone you can trust.
Sharing your secret with another is an important step in the healing and forgiving process. Be proactive. Becoming A Change Agent The scary thing is that bad habits such as abuse, alcoholism, and welfare dependency
are often passed down from parents to kids, and , as a result, dysfunctional families keep repeating themselves. How does it begin? Statistics show that if you have been abused as a child, you are likely to become an abuser
https:// www.youtube.com/watch?v=shs9IC1wpHk The Good News.. Is that you can stop the cycle. You can be proactive and stop these bad habits from being passed on. You can become a change
agent and pass on good habits to future generations, starting with your own kids. https:// www.youtube.com/watch?v=lRQlQ5McwZ0 Whether I fail Or succeed shall be
No mans doing But my own. I am the force. Elaine Maxwell Hilda.a change agent P. 60
Growing Your Proactive Muscles Autobiography in FIVE SHORT CHAPTERS I I walk down the street. There is a deep hole in the sidewalk, I fall in.
I am lostI am helpless. It isnt my fault. It takes forever to find a way out. II I walk down the same street.
There is a deep hole in the sidewalk. I pretend I dont see it. I fall in again. I cant believe I am in the same place. But, it isnt my fault. It still takes a long time to get out.
III I walk down the same street. There is a deep hole in the sidewalk. I see it is there. I still fall in. Its a habit. My eyes are open. I know where I am.
It is my fault. I get out immediately. IV I walk down the same street. There is a deep hole in the sidewalk. I walk around it.
V I walk down another street. CAN-DO PEOPLE Take initiative to make it happen
Think about solutions and options Act NO_CAN-DO-PEOPLE Wait for something to happen to them Think about problems and barriers Are acted upon
https:// www.youtube.com/watch?v=daymk2TWu1o http:// www.wingclips.com/movie-clips/world-tradecenter/step-forward This clip is a wonderful example of having to make a choice to be proactive and do something
courageous and bold, or to choose to be passive. It is an example of how we either speak boldly for Christ or sit back in silence, waiting for someone else to do the job. FAT, SICK AND NEARLY DEAD
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